Bitter sweet goes a long way

Every time you make a criticism,
don't forget to add
heartfelt compliments too.

People will take it better.
I'm sure you would.

It is not about getting words into a person's brain;
it's about getting them into a person's heart.

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Life vs Ghost Trappers (FB)

Many of us refuse to dwell on chances. We hate playing with probability, unless it is the 90% to 100% rate that we are talking about. Of course, nothing much in life falls within that sanctuary.

Nevertheless, we still try to take our chances. Even if we know there is going to be a risk of failure, we charge on. All the time, we did not realize it until we hit the wall of fiasco/failure.

That is true. However, this is true too: we know we are betting or risking something in our life in every decision we make. But we try to make our chances of winning high. There is no definite answers or one-best-choice when it comes to decision making. Life is just not meant to be an MCQ paper. It has opinion-based, open-ended questions galore. If you think your answer is right, then live on with it, along with the consequences that come in a package.

So why compare our all-too-many-decisions-to-make-and-dunno-which-to-choose life to Ghost Trappers (GT)?

Go become an agent/player of GT and find out [here] for more vivid experience.

GT is all about taking chances and enhancing the variables that affects the final outcome in order to get a high probability of success. Choosing the right whisky, investing in the approprate trapping mechanism and magic circle, sealing the right contract and bringing along the most suitable and adorable companion are among the decisions to make in order to catch ghosts all the time.

GT is not a game where the player directly interacts with other players. Cooperation does exists between players but it is not played against each other (except for friendly challenges). In other words, GT is a game between you, the player, and the odds/probability of catching ghosts. You have to deal with losses, misses and dilemmas while waiting for success. It is a game between you and chances. But it is not all that random: you can enhance your chances of winning by making the right choices. That, is life. Fate and chances might control our lives, I do not agree or disagree that. But what I know is - if you do not try to make the decisions yourself in order to raise the bar of probability to a satisfactory par, but instead, leaving it to the laps of God or fate itself, then you are not living your own life, much less to the fullest.

GT reveals many desires of humans. One of them is to win, by challenging yourself to take risk and chances.

Oh, by the way, even if you have the best set up for GT, you still suffer losses. The right choice sometimes also has flaws. Nothing is infallible. Yeah, that's life.

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Are you living the right way?

Every person born into this world is destined to carry a burden - whether he/she wants it or not. This is because we are socially-interdependent beings. Quit complaining about the burden - the burden is a constant, the variable is you. The burden has no fault, the problem is in you.

If you were a leader of any sort, you are inevitably entrusted with responsibilities - far more than the rest of the group. However, the burden's weight is not your concern, it is the strength of your shoulders that bear the burden that matters most. Start working on your shoulders, not working your mouth by grumbling over the burden.

Nevertheless, there will be a time where the weight is beyond the human limit - you just can't do it alone. If it comes to that, request for a friendly, trustworthy pair of shoulders to share the weight. Don't complain about the incompetency of your partner, it is your fault to choose a person that is incapable. Every time you point your index finger at others to blame, remember 3 more fingers of the same hand is pointing back towards you.

This world is not shape to suit you. You have to shape yourself to meld with the world. This planet doesn't revolve around you. The earlier you realize that, the better your life quality.

To the rest of you who prefers or remains as followers, please put yourself in the shoes of the leader. Empathize. The fact that most of you are in the comfort zone is due to the hard work where the leader has put in to get all the ruffled feathers and treacherous waves soothed, sorted and smoothed. Be thankful, stop complaining. If you want improvements, make constructive arguments instead of just a blunt "no" and followed by a string of annoying complaints that don't help the situation even a bit, except to irritate the leader further.

Be grateful. The reason that your life is still meaningful - a slight bit or truly - is partly due to the effort of the people around you, aside from your own actions.

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Realisation

We tend to lament about our unfortunate happenings.

We want to put the blame on something or somebody - be it yourself or others - when something bad happens.

We always tie incidents to fate - or kismet.

We think too much of "if's" - if this didn't happen, if that were done, if I never did.... IFs...

We ask too many why's and when we don't get our answers, we sink into the uncharted depths of emotion.

From the film "The Curious Case of Benjamin Button", there is a scene where a flashback is played to show how the lead actress, Daisy, was knocked down by a car. A concatenation of events - a lady forgotten about her belongings and had to return home before going out again; a taxi driver not being punctual; a truck hitting the reverse gear out of the blue, etc. - sequentially led to the accident. The narrator said that if any of the events had not occur, Daisy would not end up having a fractured leg. BUT, in reality, everything has a cause and an effect. One thing leads to another. It is impossible to blame any of the events for an outcome that we do not desire. Everything is linked in a chain from the day we are born. The world and us, it is mutual.

Some said, all the connectedness is being dictated by the Higher order and it is often linked to FATE or KISMET. Others refuse to attribute their life to that one, enigmatic and abstract concept.

For me, I would say - is it that important to dwell on whether to believe in fate or not?

Fate or no fate, we still have to carry on with our life. When something bad happens, don't think of or relate it to fate. Everything happens because of the other things that lead to it. It is just that simple. If the outcome is bad, then do something about it - to lessen the effect, to counter the effect, whatever you can think of. You can't just stop there and contemplate about your fate or the wrongness of the occurrence because the chain of events has to go on. You can determine what went wrong, understand it, and keep away from it. Don't DWELL on it.

Maybe, you can argue that the fact that some of us feel sad about something bad and dwell on it is because it is just a human thing to do. Yes, I agree. But for your own happiness, for the dearest people around you, try to reduce the time for despondence. Find a friend to confide in. Or write it down in your diary.

The most important thing, is to move on. It is easy to say, hard to do. The world won't stop for you and you won't be able to make it stop too. Every time you stop, opportunities fly by - be it in relationship, career or studies.

Believe in these:
For everything you lost, you will have an empty space to hold for new opportunities.

For everything that goes wrong, you will have one less mistake to make in future.

For everything that breaks, you have a new excuse to get a better one.

For a broken heart, it will mend and beat stronger the next time.

Also, think positively. When something is wrong, believe it isn't. It is not wrong, it is just NOT right. It sounds like half-full, half-empty philosophy. But it shows whether you are optimistic or otherwise. The same thing can be viewed from different angles. If viewed correctly, your life can be redefined.

The reality of life:
Being full of uncertainties and problems, life sucks; thinking of life is being full of uncertainties and problems, now YOU suck. Which one to be, now you make the choice.